You want nothing more than to divorce your spouse as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, your husband or wife wants to fight you at every turn, interfering with the divorce and draining your mental reserves via any means necessary. What should you do?
Psychology Today may have the answers you need. Learn how to endure a turbulent divorce with your sanity mostly intact.
Choose the right legal advocate
Work with a legal professional with an extensive history dealing with toxic divorces. That way, you have someone on your side who can predict what your soon-to-be-ex may do and how she or he may throw a wrench in the divorce works. The two of you can develop strategies and responses to speed up the divorce process and protect your peace of mind.
Use specific language in your divorce agreement
While specificity is essential for any divorce, that goes double for contentious splits. For instance, rather than including only the day for child pick-ups and drop-offs in your divorce agreement, refine this to include the day, exact time and specific geographic location. Going into detail can deter your ex from bringing your children back at an unreasonable hour or having you drive out of your way to pick them up or drop them off.
Take care of yourself
The effects of stress can sneak up on you, making you feel suddenly anxious and depressed when you felt fine a few minutes before. Engage in self-care while going through your divorce. Understandably, you may put your job and children first right now, but you must leave energy and time for taking care of yourself. Do what you can to get ahead of stress.
Going through a toxic divorce does not have to feel like a ceaseless ordeal. See how these tips work for you and your mental health.
